From personal experience, I knew her intentions were good perhaps thinking her commentary would help her son fit in or become more responsible. But not only were the corrections ineffective, but they were also driving the teen away from a mother who loved him dearly. That’s where they were now far apart. The mother wanted to know if she could bridge the gap between them after years of driving him away. I stopped chipping away at my daughter’s spirit eight years ago when she began picking her lip until it bled and the look of defeat took permanent residence in her eyes.