It became much easier when I started praying regularly and trusting God to direct their steps. So thankful that I am not the one making the choices, God’s ways are not always my way thankfully. His plan is so much better than mine! So for me, I would have to replace the inner voice with God’s whisper and that is what I hope they hear. Total agreement with the listening and stepping back recognizing their pain – and yes definitely, the rejoicing! Perhaps when he tells me he’s hurt, I need to recognize his pain.